411:停下来,看一看,向前走——想要快乐,学会感恩

分享这篇演讲《想要快乐,学会感恩》给想要快乐与探求人生意义的伙伴们。演讲者大卫·斯坦尔德·拉斯特是一位善于与内心对话的修行人,他从1953年开始,便在冥想、祷告之余,努力找出尘世种种烦恼的解决方案。他认为,快乐从感恩而生。记不得是哪一年,我第一次听到了这篇演讲,在那之后我又听了几十遍。正是感恩,帮助我找到了自己心的方向,前行的方向。希望你在仔细听完或看完之后,也能得到启发。

这是一篇长文,阅读全部文字预计需要20到30分钟,文章结构如下:

一、这篇演讲的视频链接及中文音频链接。(约50字)

二、双语文稿——方便喜欢阅读文字的朋友 (约5200字)

三、个人解读与思考(约2200字)

四、演讲稿语句摘录(约530字)

五、后记 (约160字)

欢迎你也评论、私信、分享你的心得体会。:-) 愿你笑口常开,未来的旅程里,期待我们新的遇见。谢谢!

一、相关链接

 

腾讯视频链接 (视频长度14分钟27秒)

也可在网易公开课网站或其他各平台搜索“想要快乐,学会感恩”。

中文音频

——待更新

二、双语文稿

 

想要快乐,学会感恩

 

 

There is something you know about me,something very personal, and there is something I know about every one of you and that's very central to your concerns. There is something that we know about everyone we meet anywhere in the world, on the street, that is the very main spring of whatever they do and whatever they put up with. And that is that all of us want to be happy. In this, we are all together. How we imagine our happiness, that differs from one another, but it's already a lot that we have all in common, that we want to be happy.

 

有件事是你们所了解的,关于我的、非常私人的一件事;这件事也是我所了解的,有关你们的,是你们所非常关心的。这件事与我们遇到的每个人有关,无论是在世上的任何一处还是在大街上;这件事是人们无论做什么或是忍受什么的最最主要的动力。那就是——我们所有人都想要快乐。就这件事而言,我们都是一样的。如何想象我们的快乐,每个人不尽相同,但我们最重要的共同之处是,我们都想要快乐。

 

Now my topic is gratefulness. What is the connection between happiness and gratefulness? Many people would say, well,that's very easy. When you are happy, you are grateful. But think again. Is it really the happy people that are grateful? We all know quite a number of people who have everything that it would take to be happy, and they are not happy,because they want something else or they want more of the same.

 

我的话题是关于感恩。那么快乐和感恩之间有着怎样的联系?很多人会说,嗯, 很容易啊。当你快乐的时候,你就心存感恩。但是,请再想一想,快乐的人是心存感恩的,真的是这样吗?我们知道,很多人已经拥有那些应该令他们感到快乐的东西,但他们并不快乐,因为他们想要其他的东西或者他们想要更多已经拥有的东西。

 

And we all know people who have lots of misfortune, misfortune that we ourselves would not want to have, and they are deeply happy. They radiate happiness. You are surprised.Why?Because they are grateful. So it is not happiness that makes us grateful.It's gratefulness that makes us happy. If you think it's happiness that makes you grateful, think again. It's gratefulness that makes you happy.

 

我们都知道有些遭遇了很多不幸的人,那些不幸是我们完全不想要经历的,但他们却仍可以深深地感到快乐,他们散播快乐。你会感到惊讶,为什么?因为他们懂得感恩。所以,并不是快乐让我们有感恩之情,而是感恩之心让我们快乐。如果你认为是快乐让你心存感恩,再想一想。是感恩让你快乐

 

Now, we can ask, what do we really mean by gratefulness? And how does it work? I appeal to your own experience. We all know from experience how it goes. We experience something that's valuable to us. Something is given to us that's valuable to us. And it's really given.

 

现在,我们可以问,对我们来说,感恩究竟意味着什么?它是怎么起作用的?我希望你们能回想自己的过往。我们都可以从自己的过往经验中了解到它是如何运作的。那些在过往里,对我们很珍贵的东西或体验,那一些我们收到或体验过的,对我们而言很宝贵的东西或经历,而且是真正由别人赠予的。

 

These two things have to come together. It has to be something valuable, and it's a real gift. You haven't bought it. You haven't earned it. You haven't traded it in. You haven't worked for it. It's just given to you. And when these two things come together, something that's really valuable to me and I realize it's freely given, then gratefulness spontaneously rises in my heart, happiness spontaneously rises in my heart. That's how gratefulness happens.

 

这两个条件必须同时存在。这件事物必须是重要、珍贵的,而且是一份礼物,不是你买来的,不是你挣来的、或是你交换来的,也不是你工作得来的,它只是被单纯地赠予了你。当这两个条件同时符合的时候,当这东西对我很有价值,而且我意识到这是无偿的馈赠,感恩之心在我的心里油然而生,快乐也同时出现在我的心里。这就是感恩发生的过程。

 

Now the key to all this is that we cannot only experience this once in a while. We cannot only have grateful experiences.We can be people who live gratefully. Grateful living, that is the thing. And how can we live gratefully? By experiencing, by becoming aware that every moment is a given moment, as we say. It's a gift. You haven't earned it.

 

现在,这一切的关键点在于,我们不能仅仅是在短暂的时间里体会感恩。我们不能仅仅拥有感恩的体会,我们可以是那些带着感恩之心生活的人。感恩地生活着,就是这样。那么我们如何能感恩地生活呢?通过觉察、意识到我们的每时每刻都是被给予的,如我们所说,是宇宙的礼物。并不是你挣来的。

 

You haven't brought it about in any way. You have no way of assuring that there will be another moment given to you, and yet, that's the most valuable thing that can ever be given to us, this moment, with all the opportunity that it contains. If we didn't have this present moment, we wouldn't have any opportunity to do anything or experience anything, and this moment is a gift.It's a given moment, as we say.

 

它不是你可以通过任何方式带着的,你无法确保你一定会被赠予另外的时刻。我们被赠予的最有价值的东西,就是此时此刻,以及随这个时刻而来的各种机会。如果我们没有现在这个时刻,我们不会有任何机会去做任何事,经历任何事。而当下的这个时刻,就是一个礼物,就像我们所说的那样,它是被赠与的。

 

Now, we say the gift within this gift is really the opportunity. What you are really grateful for is the opportunity,not the thing that is given to you, because if that thing were somewhere else and you didn't have the opportunity to enjoy it, to do something with it, you wouldn't be grateful for it. Opportunity is the gift within every gift, and we have this saying, opportunity knocks only once.

 

现在,我们说这个礼物中的礼物就是——每一个时刻所带来的机会。你真正感激的,是这个机会而不是那个你收到的东西。因为如果那个东西在别处,而你没有机会享受它,来体会它,你就不会觉得感恩。机会是每一个礼物中的礼物,我们有这样的谚语:机会只有一次。

 

Well, think again. Every moment is a new gift, over and over again, and if you miss the opportunity of this moment,another moment is given to us, and another moment. We can avail ourselves of this opportunity, or we can miss it, and if we avail ourselves of the opportunity, it is the key to happiness. Behold the master key to our happiness in our own hands. Moment by moment, we can be grateful for this gift.

 

那么,再想一想。每个时刻,都是一个新的礼物,周而复始。如果你错失了这个时刻给予你的机会,另一个的时刻总是会出现。我们可以利用这个机会,或者我们也可以错失它。如果我们把握住这个机会,那就是让我们快乐的关键所在。通往快乐的钥匙在我们自己的手里。滴答滴答,一秒又一秒,我们感恩这礼物的存在。

 

Does that mean that we can be grateful for everything? Certainly not. We cannot be grateful for violence, for war, for oppression, for exploitation. On the personal level, we cannot be grateful for the loss of a friend, for unfaithfulness, for bereavement. But I didn't say we can be grateful for everything. I said we can be grateful in every given moment for the opportunity, and even when we are confronted with something that is terribly difficult, we can rise to this occasion and respond to the opportunity that is given to us.

 

可是,那意味着我们要对世间一切都心存感恩吗?当然不是。我们不会感谢暴力、战争、镇压、剥削的存在。个人层面上看,我们不会感恩朋友的离去、背叛和丧友丧亲之痛,我并没有说我们要对世间一切心怀感恩。我的意思是,我们感恩每一个时刻背后所带来的机会,即使当我们面对巨大的困难时,我们可以想起这个给予我们的机会,然后对它做出回应。

 

It isn't as bad as it might seem. Actually, when you look at it and experience it, you find that most of the time, what is given to us is the opportunity to enjoy, and we only miss it because we are rushing through life and we are not stopping to see the opportunity.

 

它可能没有看起来那么糟,事实上,当你检视并经历它之后你会发现,给与我们的大部分时刻都是让我们乐在其中的机遇,我们之所以错失它,是因为我们急着过自己的生活,我们没有停下来看看这个机会。

 

But once in a while, something very difficult is given to us, and when this difficult thing occurs to us, it's a challenge to rise to that opportunity, and we can rise to it by learning something which is sometimes painful. Learning patience, for instance. We have been told that the road to peace is not a sprint, but is more like a marathon.That takes patience. That's difficult. It may be to stand up for your opinion,to stand up for your conviction. That's an opportunity that is given to us.

 

可是偶尔一些非常困难的事情发生了,当困难、危机出现时,面对、解决困难从中寻找转机,是一种挑战。它会让我们学到些什么,有时是痛苦的。例如,学着有耐心。我们知道,通往平和与和平的道路不是短跑,更像是一场马拉松。那需要耐心。那是困难的。比如捍卫自己的观点立场,捍卫自己的信念。那些也是给予我们的机会。

 

To learn, to suffer, to stand up, all these opportunities are given to us, but they are opportunities, and those who avail themselves of those opportunities are the ones that we admire. They make something out of life. And those who fail get another opportunity. We always get another opportunity. That's the wonderful richness of life.

 

去学习,去经历,去坚持,所有这些的机会是被给予我们,记住,它们是机会。那些自己抓住机遇的人是我们所尊重的,他们从生活中获得了些什么。那些失败的人,也总能获得其它的机会,我们总能再获得额外的机会。宽广的人生有其美好与富饶。

 

So how can we find a method that will harness this? How can each one of us find a method for living gratefully, not just once in a while being grateful, but moment by moment to be grateful. How can we do it? It's a very simple method. It's so simple that it's actually what we were told as children when we learned to cross the street. Stop. Look. Go.That's all. But how often do we stop?We rush through life. We don't stop. We miss the opportunity because we don't stop. We have to stop. We have to get quiet. And we have to build stop signs into our lives.

 

那我们要如何找到善用机会的方法呢?我们每个人如何能找到生活中存有感恩之心的方法呢?不是仅仅在某一次里感恩,而是每时每刻都心存感恩。我们要如何做到呢?方法非常的简单。它是如此的简单,就像小时候大人教我们如何过马路一样:停、看、行,停下来,看一看,向前走。就是这样。我们多久才停下来?我们急着过自己的生活,我们从不停歇,我们错失机会,因为我们没有停下来。我们必须停下脚步,平静下来,我们要在人生旅途中,时刻提醒自己,记得停下来。

 

When I was in Africa some years ago and then came back, I noticed water. In Africa where I was, I didn't have drinkable water. Every time I turned on the faucet, I was overwhelmed. Every time I clicked on the light, I was so grateful. It made me so happy. But after a while, this wears off. So I put little stickers on the light switch and on the water faucet, and every time I turned it on, water. So leave it up to your own imagination.

 

很多年前,我去了非洲。回来之后我意识到水的存在。在非洲,我没有可以饮用的安全水源。每次我打开水龙头的时候,我满心欢喜。每次我打开电灯的时候,我心怀感恩。然而过了一阵子之后,我就不再注意到这些了。所以我在灯的开关上、水龙头旁边贴了一些小贴纸来提醒自己,每次我看到它们就会留意,它们的存在所带来的快乐。所以请根据自己的情况自由想象和自由发挥吧。

 

You can find whatever works best for you, but you need stop signs in your life. And when you stop, then the next thing is to look. You look. You open your eyes. You open your ears. You open your nose. You open all your senses for this wonderful richness that is given to us. There is no end to it,and that is what life is all about, to enjoy, to enjoy what is given to us.

 

你会找到对你来说最好的方式,但你要提醒自己时常停下来。当你停下来的时候,下一件事就是看一看。你用眼睛看,你侧耳倾听,你用鼻子闻。你用你的身体,你的感官,去感知这个世界的精彩与丰富,这一切都是我们被给予的。那是没有止境的,那就是人生的意义——来享受,享受我们被给予的一切。

And then we can also open our hearts, our hearts for the opportunities, for the opportunities also to help others, to make others happy, because nothing makes us more happy than when all of us are happy. And when we open our hearts to the opportunities, the opportunities invite us to do something, and that is the third. Stop, look, and then go, and really do something. And what we can do is whatever life offers to you in that present moment. Mostly it's the opportunity to enjoy, but sometimes it's something more difficult.

 

我们也可以敞开心扉迎接机遇,那些能够帮助他人的机会,让他人开心,因为没有什么比所有人都开心更值得高兴的了。当我们敞开心扉迎接机遇的时候,这些机遇会邀请我们做某件事,那就是第三件事(向前走)。停下来,看一看,向前走,真正地去做一些事情。我们能做的,是认真过好人生在当下所提供的选择。大多数时候,那是去享受的机会,但有时,是更困难的事。

 

But whatever it is, if we take this opportunity, we go with it, we are creative, those are the creative people. And that little stop, look, go, is such a potent seed that it can revolutionize our world. Because we are at the present moment in the middle of a change of consciousness, and you will be surprised if you -- I am always surprised when I hear how many times this word "gratefulness" and"gratitude" comes up. Everywhere you find it, a grateful airline, a restaurant gratefulness, a café gratefulness, a wine that is gratefulness. Yes,I have even come across a toilet paper whose brand is called "Thank You."

 

但不管是什么,如果我们抓住了这个机会,我们就去完成它,我们是有创造性的,我们是有创造力的人。那个停下来,看一看,向前走,是赋有潜力的种子,那种子甚至可以改变我们的世界。在这个时刻,我们正在觉醒、觉察的路途之中。你会感到惊讶,当你注意留心的话。——我时常感到惊讶,当许许多多次,我看到感恩和感激这些词的出现的时候。在许多的地方,你可以发现,感谢、感激和感恩。比如一家“心存感恩”的航空公司,一家“心存感恩”的餐厅,一间“充满感激之情”的咖啡馆,一款“充满感恩之情”的葡萄酒。我甚至见过一款“感谢”牌的卫生纸。

 

There is a wave of gratefulness because people are becoming aware how important this is and how this can change our world. It can change our world in immensely important ways, because if you're grateful, you're not fearful, and if you're not fearful, you're not violent. If you're grateful, you act out of a sense of enough and not of a sense of scarcity, and you are willing to share. If you are grateful, you are enjoying the differences between people, and you are respectful to everybody, and that changes this power pyramid under which we live.

 

“感恩”的浪潮席卷而来,是因为人们已经开始意识到感恩有多么重要,并且感恩是如何能改变我们的世界。感恩可以以诸多种重要的方式改变我们的世界,因为当你心存感恩,你不会恐惧。如果你不恐惧,你就会平和。如果你心存感恩,你会表现出满足感,而不是害怕短缺和失去,你会更乐于分享。如果你心存感恩,你会欣赏人与人之间的不同,并且你尊重每个人。这会改变我们生活的社会中的权利金字塔结构。

 

And it doesn't make for equality, but it makes for equal respect, and that is the important thing. The future of the world will be a network, not a pyramid turned upside down. The revolution of which I am speaking is a nonviolent revolution, and it's so revolutionary that it even revolutionizes the very concept of a revolution, because the normal revolution is one where the power pyramid is turned upside down and those who were on the bottom are now on the top and are doing exactly the same thing that the ones did before. What we need is a networking of smaller groups, smaller and smaller groups who know one another, who interact with one another, and that is a grateful world.

 

心存感恩无法创造平等,但能带来平等的尊重,而那是重要的事。未来的世界将会是一个网状结构而不是金字塔,也不是倒过来的金字塔。我所说的革命是非暴力的革命,而它是如此具有革命性,它甚至革命性地改变了革命的概念,因为一个普通的革命是权利金字塔的倒转,那些底层的人站在了塔尖,然后做了和以前在金字塔塔尖的人一模一样的事情。我们需要的是小群组的网络,许许多多的小群组,相互知晓、相互沟通、相互协作。那将是一个充满感恩的世界。

 

A grateful world is a world of joyful people. Grateful people are joyful people, and joyful people -- the more and more joyful people there are, the more and more we'll have a joyful world. We have a network for grateful living, and it has mushroomed. We couldn't understand why it mushroomed. We have an opportunity for people to light a candle when they are grateful for something. And there have been 15 million candles lit in one decade. People are becoming aware that a grateful world is a happy world, and we all have the opportunity by the simple stop, look, go, to transform the world, to make it a happy place. And that is what I hope for us,and if this has contributed a little to making you want to do the same, stop,look, go.

 

一个感恩的世界,是生活在其中的人,都感到快乐的世界。有感恩之心的人是快乐的人。越多快乐的人,我们才越会有一个快乐的世界。我们有一个可以感恩地生活的网络,它迅速地增长,我们不明白为什么它为何增长得如此迅速。当人们对某事“心存感恩”时,他们可以点亮一根蜡烛。在十年内,总计有超过一千五百万支蜡烛被点亮了。人们开始意识到感恩的世界是快乐的世界,而我们都有机会,只需要简单地停下来,看一看,向前走,来改变世界,让世界变得更美好、更快乐。如果(我的演讲)能够为你带来一点点动力,我希望你可以来这样做——停下来,看一看,向前走。

 

Thank you.(Applause)

谢谢!

 

 

三、5W2H个人解读与思考

 

What 什么

全人类有一个共同点,就是我们每一个人都想要快乐。所有人都想要快乐。除了快乐,也许有些人还想要更多。此文仅仅是讨论感恩和快乐。观点:并不是快乐让我们有感恩之情,而是感恩之心让我们快乐。当被无偿地给予了对我们而言有价值的一个礼物时,感恩会发生。可以说,时间或者说生命就是被无偿地给予我们的珍贵的礼物。所有的事情都在时间里发生。伴随着时间而来的可能性,是礼物中的礼物。感恩这最珍贵的礼物,停、看、行,然后快乐。

 

Why 为什么

举例:那些遭遇了许多不幸但仍可以深深地感到快乐的人。他们的快乐不简单,他们不会去感恩不幸,他们不屈服于命运,他们珍惜生命,感恩已拥有和存在,他们的快乐可以是源于感恩对自己的接纳和奋斗不息。

演讲者实际上鼓励听众,直面人生中遇到的痛苦与挑战,用如“塞翁失马焉知非福”的辩证思想,来将痛苦与挑战视作学习、成长的机会,失败了,也不气馁,也要快乐。这很不容易,但只有这么做,才能经由感恩之心,到快乐,到努力,到成长。善用伴随着时间而来的可能性,去学习,去经历,去坚持。快乐在一念之间,也可在努力(做)的过程之中或小有成就之时,不必定在预期的结果里。

 

补充

同一件事情的发生,可以用消极的思维或是积极的思维来对其进行解读。消极的思维来解读,带给自己负面能量,于事无补,而非理性或错误的认知则可能导致异常情感或行为。积极的思维来解读,不是要无视事件的负面影响,而是要避免其对情绪能量的过度负面影响,避免运用错误的信念或歪曲/错误思维带来的错误解读、错误情绪反应和行为。从而能运用自己实际拥有的力量,进行较为全面、客观的分析来进行冷静应对,分析哪些是自己可以控制的,哪些是自己可以影响的,哪些是由他人决定的,不钻牛角尖。事件往往是单一的、影响有限的,而人生之路是漫长而丰富多彩的。正确的(信念)认知和实践(行动)结合,缺一不可。求知,行动,知行合一,获得快乐与成长。

 

 

人本心理学,认知疗法。"ABC"理论:由Ellis提出。

 

A指与情感有关系的事件(activating events);B指信念或想法(Beliefs),包括理性或非理性的信念;C指与事件有关的情感反应结果(Consequences)和行为反应。事件和反应的关系:通常认为,事件A直接引起反应C。事实上并非如此,在A与C之间有B的中介因素。A对于个体的意义或是否引起反应受B的影响,即受人们的认知态度,信念决定。

举例:对一幅抽象派的绘画;有人看了非常欣赏,产生愉快的反应;有人看了感到这只是一些无意义的线条和颜色,既不产生愉快感,也不厌恶。画是事件A,但引起的反应C各异,这是由于人们对画的认知评估B不同所致。

认知评估或信念对情绪反应或行为有重要影响,非理性或错误认知导致异常情感或行为,而不是事件本身。

 

许多人认为我之所以心情不好是因为我遇到了倒霉的事件,好像是不好的事件带来的心理苦恼。在ABC理论中,由于有认知的作用,所以不好的事件是否会带来心理苦恼就不一定了,甚至有可能会带来成长和好的机会。这就是认知行为治疗的重要观念:是非理性或错误认知导致异常情感或行为,而不仅仅是事件本身。

 ——来自百度网络搜索内容。

 

 

How 怎么做

停下来,看一看,向前走

 

用心发现,用心感恩

敞开心扉,感知体验

帮助他人,独乐乐不如众乐乐

认真过好人生在当下所提供的选择

尊重分享,迎接挑战

小群组的网络的力量,联结,交流。

 

停下来:休息,体验快乐;

看一看:总结,思考,规划;

向前走:学习,探索,发现,创造和实践。

金字塔结构vs网络(扁平)结构:平等与尊重,团队的力量,网络组织的扩大。

现在/未来的世界,爱与自由,公平与正义,幸福和快乐。

 

补充

1)马克思说过“人的本质是所有社会关系的总和”。生活在群体之中的我们,哪些社会关系影响了我们的幸福感呢?思考下?和你所投入的时间成正比吗?你花多少时间在爱你的人和你爱的人身上?家庭(家族)、职场、朋友圈里,哪些人对你最重要?哪些人影响你最多?人不能孤独地生活,总是在各种组织里,为共同的目标(及个人的目标)而努力。人类现阶段最大的组织是国家(那些由国家或地区组成的“国际组织”其实是很松散的,军事联盟?目前超越了我的认知。),而对我们而言最小的组织是什么呢?

2)境由心造,自我的对话。在弗洛伊德的理论中,意识分为的三部分,即本我,自我,超我构成了人的完整的人格。人的一切心理活动都可以从他们之间的联系中得到合理的解释,自我是永久存在的,而超我和本我又几乎是永久对立的,为了协调本我和超我之间的矛盾,自我需要进行调节。若个人承受的来自本我、超我和外界压力过大而产生焦虑时,自我就会帮助启动防御机制。防御机制有:压抑、否认、退行、抵消、投射、升华等等。简单来说,本我是人的本能,超我是我们的理想化目标,自我则是二者冲突时的调节者。

佛家说境由心造,张德芬写到“亲爱的,外面没有别人,只有你自己。”。这里不是唯心的理解或解释,而是强调了心境其实大多数情况下,操之在我。内心的平静与平和,带来生活的平静与平和。修行,进无止境。选择一个合适自己的环境,也是必要的。

3)亲近生机盎然的自然。绿树、红花、草地、山川、溪流、天空、海洋、风、雨、雷、电……,自己或者与他人一道,走出钢筋水泥的室内空间,在海阔天空里,呼吸,观察,徒步,奔跑,攀登,浮潜,飞行等等,去感受生物圈里的勃勃生机。不止人类,植物、昆虫、动物……生命是这个星球的奇迹。亲近自然,亲近生命,感知存在。

4)物以类聚,人以群分。找到兴趣,找到和你有共同兴趣、或共同志向的人,组成小群体,不同的群体。体验、分享、交流、碰撞、改变、创造。榜样的力量,伙伴的力量。快乐可以加倍,人们的快乐可以指数化的增长。

5)每个人不同阶段,如何停下来,怎么看一看,如何向前走,是具体的命题。要重视精力管理,包括:体能/情绪/思维/意志。忙得没心没肺的时候,很容易会忘记做重要的事——精力管理。健康状态下的我们,才可能清醒地思考,去感恩当下,获得快乐。身心健康是一切的基石。感恩当下,获得快乐,在做事的时候,或许就可以没那么急或焦虑,而是耐心,遵循本心,拥有更多慈悲心。

 

How often 频率

生活里的每个小时(工作、运动等)或许都需要停下来,休息片刻。《精力管理》里的比喻:人生是许许多多次的短跑,每一次跑完,都需要休息。我们的每一天,每一个阶段,不要急于开始,开始之前,做点什么;过程之中,需要停下;结束阶段,也不要急着结束,“结束”之后,可能还有重要的事情需要做完(才是真正的“结束”)。

Who 谁

我们每一个人。

 

When 何时

此时此刻,每时每刻。

 

Where 何地

地球,这个世界(我们是组成部分),我们所处的每一处。

 

四、摘录

 

我们所有人都想要快乐。这是我们最重要的共同之处。

 

感恩让我们快乐。重要的、有价值的(无条件的)赠予(礼物)带来感恩之心。

 

我们被赠予的最有价值的东西,就是此时此刻,以及随这个时刻而来的各种机会。

 

礼物中的礼物就是——每一个时刻所带来的机会。

 

每个时刻,都是一个新的礼物,周而复始。

 

通往快乐的钥匙在我们自己的手里。

 

我们不是要对世间一切心怀感恩。我们感恩每一个时刻背后所带来的机会。

 

当困难、危机出现时,面对、解决困难从中寻找转机,是一种挑战。它会让我们学到些什么。

 

去学习,去经历,去坚持。宽广的人生有其美好与富饶。

 

(如何心存感恩?) 停下来,看一看,向前走。

 

你用眼睛看,你侧耳倾听,你用鼻子闻。你用你的身体,你的感官,去感知这个世界的精彩与丰富。

 

我们能做的,是认真过好人生在当下所提供的选择。

 

停下来,看一看,向前走,是赋有潜力的种子,那种子甚至可以改变我们的世界。

 

我们是有创造性的,我们是有创造力的人。

 

当你心存感恩,你不会恐惧。如果你不恐惧,你就会平和。如果你心存感恩,你会表现出满足感,而不是害怕短缺和失去,你会更乐于分享。

 

我们需要的是小群组的网络,许许多多的小群组,相互知晓、相互沟通、相互协作。

 

我们都有机会,只需要简单地停下来,看一看,向前走,来改变世界,让世界变得更美好、更快乐。

 

五、后记:

    4月初的时候想要分享这篇演讲,那时想着4月11日来发布,而实际上需要投入的时间比自己预想的要多许多,网上的中文译文有些看着不是很通顺,于是尝试按自己的语言对译文进行了一些修改,然后添加自己的心得体会,整理组织,斟酌、反复修改和补充,克制添加内容的想法,最后排版、预览、调整、预览……发布。第一次的尝试,鼓励自己:完成即是完美。

  “停下来”有许多种,比如经常路过一个开满鲜花的花园,一直行色匆匆的我们可以某次停下脚步,驻足欣赏花朵的美丽;又或者在一段关系里,看不清楚未来的方向,那么可能到了驻足思考的时候。如果你有关于“停下来”的困惑,欢迎一起(私信)探讨。

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