对付粗鲁的人的好方法

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正文原创翻译：

Clever Ways to Deal With Rude People

对付粗鲁的人的好方法

There are always situations where you may face dealing with rude people. Most of the time you can just let it go or answer them back, but those things are sometimes not possible if you’re dealing with a customer, a client, your boss or someone who works with you. You have to learn how to deal with those people and here are some tips on how to do it:

人们总是有机会碰到必须对付粗鲁的人的情况。在绝大多数时候，当你遇见了粗鲁的人，你只需把它忘了或者屌回去，不过有时候你不可能采取上述的做法，尤其当你遇见的粗鲁的人是你的一个顾客或者一个客户或者你的老板或者一个与你共事的人的时候，你就不可能采取那些做法。你必须懂得如何对付那些人。本文为你提供了一些如何处理这种事的建议。

1.Remain calm

1.保持冷静。

If someone is rude and tries to provoke you reaction, just remain calm. It might hurt your image and you might also say something you’ll regret later on. Don’t ever let the other person know they got to you, whether it is email communication or phone communication or in person. By learning to control yourself, you’ll earn the respect of other people.

如果你遇见了一个粗鲁的人并且他试图挑衅你的时候，你只需要保持冷静。因为如果你冲动了，你的形象会受损，而且，你在冲动的情况下可能会说出些你之后会感到后悔的话。请不要让其他人知道那些粗鲁的人对付你了，不论你遭遇的这些粗鲁的对待是在电子邮件的沟通中出现的或者是在讲电话的时候出现的，或者你是当面受到了某些人的粗鲁的对待，你都不要让其他人知道这件事。只要你学会了克制自己，你就能够赢得别人的尊敬。

2.Don’t take everything personally

2.不要把自己遭受粗鲁对待的责任推到自己身上

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When facing someone who is rude, there comes a point when you start asking yourself whether it is your fault. That maybe there’s something wrong with you and that maybe you caused their reaction. There is probably a reason they reacted a certain way, but that doesn’t mean there is something wrong with you. It is more about their experiences and their personal issues.

当年碰到某人粗鲁地对待你的时候，你可能会在那时开始自问是否是自己在哪些方面做错了。也许你确实有点错，也许你也的确是因为自己的某些做法导致了他们做出这些行为，但是并不是说，有人粗鲁地对待你就一定代表了你犯了某些错误。人们做出粗鲁行为在更多情况下是由于他们的个人经历和个人问题造成的。

3.Don’t expect rude people to change

3.不要指望那些粗鲁的人会改变自己的这种做法

There are certain people in this world who enjoy behaving rudely. Some don’t understand that they are rude and some just enjoy bullying others. It is only important that you realize you can’t change others. You can only change your behavior and your expectations of them.

在这个世界上存在一些人喜欢做出粗鲁的举止。有些人无法理解为什么他们会喜欢表现出粗鲁的言行、为什么他们会喜欢欺负别人。小编认为你不必纠结于这些问题，你只需认识到你无法改变其他人就行了。你能够改变的只有你自己的行为和你对这些粗鲁的人曾经怀有的期待。

4.Be obxtive about the situation

4.你要对这种事保持客观的态度

There are times that some person is not being rude, but you could be emotional and interpreting the whole thing in the wrong way. Sometimes they are rude because it is their personality. Many of those rude people are just trying to protect themselves from being hurt, it is their defense mechanism.

某些人在某些时候并不会表现出粗鲁的言行，但是当你遭遇这些人的粗鲁对待的时候，你可能会因为一时的情感波动而错误解读这件事、认为这些人就一直都是举止粗鲁的。小编想说：他们有时候表现粗鲁是因为他们的性格所致。他们当中的许多人只是为了保护他们自己不受伤害才这样的，是他们的自我防卫的机制导致了这些粗鲁的言行。

5.Choose the way you are going to respond to rudeness

5.选择好你要回应这些粗鲁言行的方式

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First of all, you don’t have to do anything at all. Sometimes silence can be the best cure for everything. If you’re in a middle of a conversation you can ignore their comments or just act indifferently.

首先，你其实不必采取任何举动来做出回应。有时候保持沉默能解决所有问题。如果你在和别人的交谈中遭到了某些人的粗鲁对待，你可以采取无视他们的粗鲁言论的做法，或者，你只需表现出一副无所谓的样子就可以了。

6.Try to understand why someone is rude

6.试着去理解一个人为什么会表现出粗鲁的言行的原因

If someone is rude to you, there is probably some explanation or reason for their behavior. While you think that there can’t be anything, consciously or unconsciously there probably is. Maybe they don’t respect you, maybe you’re not important to their goals in life or maybe it is just because you are younger then them. There doesn’t have to be a valid reason for you, but in their minds there probably is something.

如果有人粗鲁地对待你了，也许他或她这样做是有原因的。当你认为他们这样做肯定毫无理由的时候，也许他们这样做还真是有原因的。也许他们并不尊重你，也许你对于他们来说并不重要，又或许这一切的发生之时因为你比他们年轻。不过，你无需把这些事放在心上，也许他们的心理状态出现了问题。

7.Become more authoritative with that person

7.做一个让那类人觉得你是有威信的人的人。

That doesn’t mean you should boss them around or anything like that. It means that they are rude because they probably don’t respect you and you should change that. Become invaluable and contribute wherever you can. You could also improve in those fields that person finds important and thus become more important to them.

要这样做并不意味着你必须对他们发号施令或者对他们做类似的事情。小编想说的是：他们粗鲁地对待你的原因或许是因为他们并不尊重你，在这种情况下，你应该改变自己的处境。你应该变得更加有价值、在你擅长的领域做出成绩。你也可以在那些人所认为的重要的领域提高自己的能力和价值，这样你对他们来说就会变得更加重要。

8.Keep your dignity

维护你的尊严

No matter how rude someone is and no matter what they say, don’t let them make you feel lesser about yourself and who you are. Don’t give up on your values and beliefs. This person is not worth it.

不管某人多么粗鲁，也不管他们对你说了些什么，请不要让他们成功使你感到自己确实挺糟糕或者看扁自己。不要放弃自己的价值观和信念。这种人不值得你这样做。

9.Don’t be affected by them

9.不要受这些人的影响

If you associate yourself with negative people, you will feel negative. Rude people function on a certain level of negativity where you can find pride, anger and fears. If their behaviour affects you, it means that you’re on their level and they can harm you.

如果你把你和那些给你带来负面情绪的人扯到一起，那么你会变得消极。你可以从这些粗鲁的人表现出的某些粗鲁的行为发现他们的傲慢、愤怒和恐惧。如果他们的行为影响到了你，这意味着你就和他们处于同一个层次了，所以他们的这种粗鲁的对待会伤害到你。

However, if you learn to be at a higher level than they are, you won’t be affected by their words and behaviors and you won’t feel violated and attacked even if they try to bring you down.

但是，如果你在心态上比他们的层次更高，你就不会被他们的言语和行为所影响。在这种状态下，即便他们试图击垮你，你也不会觉得自己被侮辱了或者受到了攻击。