你长期独自生活的原因是什么？

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I can only tell you why I like to live alone. First of all, I’m an introvert and am quickly depleted by being around others. The constant noise and stimulation wears me out, and gets on my last nerve. When I start getting this way and am unable to get away, I get very crabby and short-tempered. When I was married, twice, I was always trying to find a place to be alone, away from the incessant drone of the television that my husbands turned on the moment they arose, and didn’t turn off until they finally went to bed. It was like fingernails down a blackboard for me. That’s when I started taking hours long hot baths. They were my escape, even though ex #2 constantly disturbed me out of spite. He wanted me to sit with him while he watched television programs that had no interest for me, and was mad that I wouldn’t, so did spiteful things to get even.

我能告诉你我为什么喜欢一个人住。首先，我是一个内向的人，和别人在一起我很快就会筋疲力尽。持续不断的噪音和干扰会使我精疲力竭。如果持续这样，我还无法脱身，我就会变得非常暴躁。当我结过两次婚后，我总是想找个地方独处。我的丈夫们总是一起床就打开电视机，直到上床睡觉才关掉，那是没完没了的嗡嗡声，我想远离这些。对我来说就像在手指甲划黑板的声音那样。从那时起，我就开始泡几个小时的热水澡。这是我的逃命之道，第二个例子，是为了泄愤而不断打扰我。他想让我陪他看那些我不感兴趣的电视节目，他很生气我不陪他看，所以为了报复，他也会对我做一些恶意的事情。

This brings me to my second reason for preferring to live alone: other people’s expectations. All tolled, I was married for 25 years of my life, and dated or was in relationships when I was single. It always involved their having expectations of me that I might not agree with or like. Even making plans for dinner or a party a few days in advance became annoying. When the appointed day came, I may look forward to the date, but I’m just as likely to not feel like going, staying home in my jammies streaming a good movie. This always lead to problems. Because of my introversion, men told me I was the least demanding woman they ever knew. They loved that about me, until they decided it meant I didn’t care for them. I know most other women accept expectations and demands, or obligations, as what one does to maintain a relationship. But, my personality type, ISTP, is fiercely independent and freedom loving. Being bound by obligations makes me feel claustrophobic, gasping for air. Although men who come on strong wanting to spend every free moment with the obxt of their desire makes most women feel loved, it made me feel imprisoned. I broke up with more than one guy for this reason.

这就引出了我喜欢独自生活的第二个原因：别人的期望。总之，我第一次结婚25年前，那之前单身时还是会约会或谈恋爱，但这总是涉及到他们对我的期望，而我则很不喜欢这样，提前几天约定好何时去晚餐或聚会也会变得很烦人。当约定的日子到来时，我可能会很期待，但我很可能不想去，而是穿着睡衣呆在家里看一部好电影。这总是会导致问题。因为我的内向，男人们告诉我，我是他们认识的女人中要求最低的。他们喜欢我的这一点，但直到他们认为这意味着我不在乎他们。我知道大多数其他女人接受一些期待、要求或义务，作为维持一段关系所做的。但是，我的性格类型是非常独立和热爱自由的，被义务束缚使我感到幽闭恐怖，我渴望呼吸空气。虽然那些男人一开始就强烈地想要和对象度过每时每刻，可以让大多数女人感到被爱，但这让我感到被囚禁。因为这个原因，我甩了不止一个人。

I know my feelings aren’t common, but there are a few others out there like me. We live alone because it’s our "default" setting. Living with others feels too restrictive, like tight clothing, and downright irritating. I’ve been living alone since I divorced my second husband 20 years ago, and I’ve never been happier. Frankly, I can’t understand why anyone would want to live with someone else. 

我知道我的这感觉不常见，但还有一些人和我一样。我们独自生活是因为这是我们的“默认”先天设置。和别人住在一起感觉太拘束了，就像穿了紧身衣服，这非常烦人。自从20年前我和第二任丈夫离婚后，我就一直一个人生活，我从来没有这么快乐过。坦白说，我不明白为什么有人想和别人住在一起。

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Let me tell my reasons for living alone

But before that, I’m an extrovert !! So how is it that I like to live alone more despite being an extrovert ??

I do have a lot of friends no doubt . A lot of people do say so too. But in reality they’re only people I know! I don’t keep people really close to me . So my friends usually talk about their shit or us talking about kpop or anime in general or we do gossip. Well gossiping is something which is not worth to hear and I don’t wanna gossip but , I’m still involved in their talk. So hearing stuff like" This girl is a big hoe , she sucks dick a lot or this that etc ”, it sounds fun hearing this but as you mature these talks sound silly. So I’m tired of hearing such stories , I like to hang out on my own , probably run into trouble and have an adventure alone.

让我告诉你我独自生活的理由

但在此之前，我是一个外向的人!!那么，尽管我是一个外向的人，为什么我更喜欢独处呢?

毫无疑问，我确实有很多朋友。很多人也这么说。但事实上，他们只是我认识的人!我不会让人靠的我太近。我的朋友们喜欢谈论他们的那种事情，我们会谈论韩国流行音乐或动漫，或者八卦。八卦是不值得听的东西，我也不想八卦，但偶尔我还是会参与他们的谈话。虽然听到像“某个女孩是个绿茶，她吮了很多鸡鸡，或之类的东西”这样的话听起来很有趣，但当你成熟了，这些话听起来很傻。所以我厌倦了听这样的故事，所以我喜欢自己出去玩，可能会遇到麻烦，但我更喜欢独自一人。

Talking about hanging out alone , Having a person over or just having a roommate in general , he or she or it have certain habits which I won’t like. Of course I have to sext carefully, but some behaviours can’t be explained until you notice them. Just imagine you living with a person who has weird habits or has a lust for vodka or cigarettes, meanwhile I’m a non smoker or drinker? Yes!! Could make me be like them?? 90% yes! Now I know why my grandparents tell me to avoid being friends with smokers or drinkers.

I love cosplaying a lot, I started cosplaying this year !! It’s so much fun.!! So I love to have my own personal space to make my costume ..

说到独处，你可以请一个人来住或者找一个室友，但他或她可能有一些我不喜欢的习惯，当然，你可以仔细辨别，但有些行为是无法发现的，直到你后来才能注意到。想象一下，你和一个有奇怪的习惯或者喜欢伏特加或香烟的人住在一起，而我不抽烟不喝酒?是的，可能会让我像他们一样，90%的可能性。这就是为什么我的祖父母告诉我不要和吸烟者或饮酒者做朋友了。

我非常喜欢cosplay，我是从今年才开始的。太有趣了。所以我喜欢有自己的私人空间来制作我的cos服装。

I’m happy lgbt!. Last two months a friend of mine tried to convince me I’m a bisexual … me being old enough to know and she ain’t gonna change that. I stoped talking to her now , and yeah it’s 2019 , people can get offended easily now , so me alone also equals not being known within lgbt community.

I did mention I like living alone, there are something’s you can do which outweighs the disadvantage! Those can be like coming out of bath naked without having to dress up inside the bathroom or dancing with your bias whole night or reading some fan fics or devoloping some hobbies !! Possibilities are endless !! And since you’re alone there ain’t gonna be anyone disturbing your sleep ,and no one gonna make disgusting faces when you make some food !! 

我是一个快乐的lgbt。过去两个月，我的一个朋友试图说服我是一个双性恋者，但我年龄已经足够大，我能知道自己的性取向了，她也不能改变这一点。我现在也不再和她说话了，是的，现在是2019年了，人们都很容易彼此冒犯，所以我也是独自一人，不被lgbt群体所知。

我喜欢独自生活，也有一些事情可以弥补这些缺点！就像光着身子从浴室出来，而不用先在浴室里化妆，或者整晚按照你的乐趣跳舞，或者阅读一些小说，以及发展一些爱好！可能性是无限的！既然你是一个人，就不会有人打扰你睡觉，当你做食物的时候，也不会有人表现出不喜欢的表情!!